I AM FREE

My divorce became final at 9AM this morning. I confronted my now ex on the girlfriend he has had since last summer (I found a picture of them when they had gone hiking when I was home recuperating from my surgery). No big deal to me as I had already given up on the marriage by then. I was just biding my time until I could leave (and making sure I had the surgery when I had the insurance). Once I gave him the picture he refused to look at me or talk to me. Chicken shit.

My landlord has a different 2 bedroom apt that is on the first floor and is super close to work that I am looking at in the morning. I am really hoping I like it as I would love to be able to walk to work on nice days. Exercise!

My daughter was a total wench this morning. I refused to sit around and wait for her to get her butt in gear so I left for work without her. Let her walk. We live 7/10's of a mile from her school so it isn't a big deal. Just slushy and messy walking. Tomorrow - she is walking again. And she will be told to get herself up and ready. If she is ready to leave when I am I will bring her to school. Otherwise - have a nice walk.

I am tired of people walking all over me and expecting me to just suck up and take it. I am not going to do that anymore. I don't care who you are. Not going to do it. My best friend from high school calls me when she has a TV problem. This time the TV I "Sold" her (that has yet to be paid for - 5 yrs later) is dying. She now wants me to get her a TV from Work (we get things at cost here) and not tell the boss it is for her. NOPE. Sorry. Won't do it. I gave her two TV's (not paid for) that I had to pay for when I got them (used but still) and I refuse to help her out that way again.

Had car problems Tuesday during the snow storm. Had my dad put a new starter in the car so it will run again. Next Tuesday he is putting in a new wheel bearing in the driver side rear. After that and the cost of the movers I am hiring (I refuse to move the big furniture from the third floor again) I am saving as much as I can as quickly as I can to get a new(er) car. It is time. I have had my baby for almost 7 yrs now and she is starting to show her age. The repairs are starting to outweigh the cost of replacing her. I will miss my car.

Work is good. Busy most days, quite others. Lets me get caught up on paperwork I put off when it is busy.

Other than that, not much is going on in my little part of the world.

This is the year to get things done

I have decided after much thinking and pondering that this year - 2010 - will be my year to get things done.

That means that:

1. Bills will be paid off and not reaccumulated

2. Weight loss will recommence

3. Money will be saved

4. New(er) car will be purchased

5. Nice vacation will be taken

#1 - I have already started. I used a good portion of my income tax refund to pay off a bunch of smaller bills and start on the medical bills. Those will be paid in full by fall and I will be done with all past due bills. My student loan (which I manage to get deferred) will be paid on as the other bills are paid off. Going to do the rolling debt paydown method. Basically - when you pay off a bill that amount now goes towards the student loan with the regular monthly payment that I will be making even though it is is deferment.

#2 - Since I have been pretty sick these past 2 weeks I haven't had much of an appetite so the weight has started coming off. I have gotten rid of a ton of junk food in my house and replaced it with healthier food. Next step when the cold finally goes away enough so I can breathe normally again is to start walking. Alot

#3 & #4 - $1000.00 is being transferred into savings today. My car doesn't need the huge repair that we thought it did so the money I had put aside from tax refund will now go into savings towards a new(er) car. Now that the bills are pretty much all caught up and most are paid ahead and paid off and child support has all reverted to arrears for Donny and Chelsea that is an extra 580.00 per month that goes into savings.

#5 - My vacation to Idaho (and maybe Missouri to see Kerry). I am planning on going the beginning of August but may have to put it off for awhile if I don't have a new(er) car by then. I don't want to push Maxi (my maxima) and end up stuck somewhere between NH and Idaho with no one I trust to fix my car. I will get there.

I am determined. And when I am determined I don't let anything get in my way. Ever.

I retitled and registered the car today. Jimsgrl is GONE and OK - KID is now here. Cost me $195.33 which sucked but at least it is done and I don't have to worry about doing it again until either November or when I get a new(er) car.

I only owe $205.00 on my new couch (including the 10.00 delivery fee) and that will be paid off hopefully next week or the week after. I think I did pretty good with that. It was $1034.95 on sale. I paid $309.95 cash. Panasonic and Sony paid the rest from the Spiff money I earned. I can't complain. It is a great couch and will last me for years now that the three oldest kids are on their own and KK is 12 and hopefully old enough to know better than to do silly things (like paint) on it.

I feel good about things right now. I see my life going in the direction I want it to go in. Finally. It is sad that James did not want to go in the same direction with me but I am happy now. Satisfied with my life and my decisions.

It is time for me to live the way I want to. To do things for ME. To plan for MY future.